Steady Stoic
Daily lesson · Week 12 · Friday · Morning

Humility and Ego

This week you are going to sit with one of the more uncomfortable ideas in Stoic thought: that you are very small, and that recognizing this is not defeat but the beginning of real strength. The arc moves from stripping away what inflates you, through discovering what genuinely grounds you, to arriving at Saturday with a clear sense of what a great soul actually looks like. Each day builds on the last, so try not to skip ahead.

Passage

But if your impression of it is correct, and you do not think too meanly of yourself, consider the magnitude of the enterprise that you are taking in hand.

— Epictetus, Discourses 3.22.12

Reflection

Epictetus pulls the lens back to the whole person you are becoming through this practice. He warns against thinking too meanly of yourself, which might seem like the opposite of everything the week has built toward. But it is not. Humility that collapses into self-dismissal is just ego turned inside out; it is still preoccupied with the self, only now in a diminishing direction. The real task, he says, is to see the magnitude of what you are actually trying to do with your life. Taking your own project seriously is not arrogance. Refusing to is its own form of avoidance.

Go deeper

Where in your life are you currently underselling the seriousness of your own undertaking, treating something that genuinely matters to you as smaller than it is, and what fear is that underselling protecting you from?

Practice

Name the Enterprise

About 12 minutes

Write at the top of a page: 'The thing I am actually trying to do with my life is...' and complete it in three or four sentences, as honestly as you can. No hedging, no irony. Then underneath, write: 'What this requires of me that I have not yet fully accepted is...' and complete that too. Read both aloud to yourself. This is the enterprise Epictetus is asking you to look at clearly.